August 4, 2020
As we learn of yet another postponement. I am compelled to write about this subject. In light of everything; coronavirus pandemic death tolls, social injustice, global economic downturn, and political disarray.
It’s okay to be sad about postponing your wedding.
You are not alone.
I need you to know that All of your feelings are VALID. You are allowed to hurt for those who have been affected by the pandemic and experience true disappointment with having to postpone your wedding. Feeling disappointment, sadness, and even resentment does not make you a bad person. Countless brides and grooms were counting the days to walk down the aisle when life was disrupted without warning. I am here to tell you it’s ok.
What I mean by this is there will surely be people in your life who will shame you for feeling the way you do. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Don’t allow your family, friends, and coworkers to invalidate your emotions. Listen, take a deep breath, and walk away. I would love to say that a well-articulated elevator speech will persuade them to empathize rather than judge you but the reality is it won’t. Continue to encourage each other and cherish those who are supporting you during this hard season.
Celebrate your original wedding date—go on a special date, binge-watch Modern Family (there’s an episode about a wedding day not going as planned), or take a scenic hike to clear your mind. I saw a Reddit couple who opted for a picnic at their wedding venue. Things are getting canceled left and right but LOVE is not canceled.
I’m a woman of faith and I stand for seeking help from professionals who can help you navigate your feelings. It’s ok to seek help when talking it through amongst each other and loved ones are not working.
You and your fiancé will be stronger and more resilient for it.
Take this time to lean on one another. You are two individuals who may feel and cope through this situation differently. Make room for grace and love as you both navigate this season.
Jesus is still GOOD. There is always hope in Him. No matter the circumstance, God is and will always be our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. I personally invite you to read these scriptures. Be uplifted, be encouraged.
“My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.” –Isaiah 55:8-9
“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” –Jeremiah 29:11
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. –Psalm 34:18
Weeping may last through the night, but joy comes with the morning.–Psalm 30:5
And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. –Romans 8:28
With love and grace,